Developing Your Emotional Intelligence (EQ)

EQ, or emotional intelligence, is a measure of how well we understand and manage our own emotions and the emotions of others. People with high EQ tend to be successful in all areas of their lives – they’re better at managing relationships, handling stress, and achieving their goals. But what if you’re not naturally gifted with EQ? Can it be developed? Absolutely! Here’s how…

What is EQ?
Emotional intelligence (EQ) is a term that describes the ability to understand and manage one’s own emotions, as it pertains to the self and those around you. It involves capabilities such as self-awareness, self-regulation, and empathy. Having EQ has many benefits, such as improved work performance, healthier relationships with both family and friends, higher levels of happiness overall, and heightened emotional stability. People with high EQ also have better mental health and can handle stressful situations more effectively.

The different components of EQ
Perhaps the most important part of understanding emotional intelligence is identifying your own feelings and responding appropriately. To become more self-aware, it can be helpful to take a moment to dialogue with yourself and further consider what emotions you may be feeling and why you are feeling them. Additionally, learning how to regulate your emotions can help you learn how to better manage your reactions, both internally and when interacting with others.

Learn how to self-regulate your emotions
Self-regulation helps us cultivate resilience and self-understanding, and connect more deeply with ourselves and those around us. By learning how to identify, process, and express our emotions in a healthy way, we can better manage difficult situations and lead happier, more productive lives.

Expanding your empathy
Deepening your empathy for others is a critical life skill that can help us understand motivations, build better relationships and even approach problems with a more objective viewpoint. It starts with learning how to listen. It can be easy in conversation to interrupt, take the conversation off topic, or simply talk over one another. Instead, try taking an interest in someone else’s story or feelings and put yourself in their shoes and really comprehend their perspective.

Practice active listening
Practicing active listening can be incredibly beneficial in both personal and professional relationships. Active listening involves completely engaging with a speaker, by giving your full attention and maintaining eye contact, as well as repeating back thoughts you’ve heard to ensure that everyone is on the same page. Not only does this practice help deepen understanding of the given topic, but it can also create a sense of trust between the two parties. We are more likely to understand each other if we actively listen and show that we’ve heard the other party’s point of view.

EQ is a valuable skill in many aspects of life. If you’d like to improve your emotional intelligence, there are many resources available online and in libraries. You can also take an emotional intelligence test to get feedback on which areas you need to work on. Whether you want to be more successful at work or have happier relationships, developing your emotional intelligence is a good place to start.